With a Pretty Pink Bow

I was contacted recently by a man who typed..."I believe submission is a gift, born out of strength, fed by trust and kept by regards and respect."

After I stopped laughing at the sum of his message, I chose to respond to that idea alone.

Submissiveness is a state of being. A default stance. What we find to center or ground us.

Submission is an inevitability.

Of course, it does not (can not!) occur with every person we meet, there is chemistry in it as in any other aspect.

For some of us, the desire for submission is so strong that we are able to ignore a lack of chemistry. It's no different from a person ignoring a lack of emotional or mental connection. This is also called grasping at straws.

For others of us, the desire is stronger for other qualities to be present before being able to relax into submission.

Submission is not a gift. It can't be given away and placed on a shelf, or worn on a birthday. You can't say, "Remember that submission I gave you last year? It was the best submission ever."

There are Dominants who can beat you, who can make you lust for them, who can mentor you. But there is a short list in Fate's hands of the ones to whom you can truly submit.