Heaven help us, I've been thinking

I read a few posts, and have been doing some research, all in the name of becoming an 'expert' at submission (laughable, really, but true).

The things I have read have made me realize that I've set down no true expectations for a relationship with a Dominant. Consider it my contract with myself.

Rules
I need explicit rules and boundaries for most situations, and in terms of my daily life, not rules that only surround play or our time together. There should be a set of guidelines for general behavior, but I do best with what I can clearly define as black or white. Else, I will manipulate or take advantage.

Reason
Each rule laid out must have logic behind it, or some concept that I can grasp to understand what I am supposed to learn. It's not enough to tell me that I am not permitted to do XYZ, I need to be aware of the reason why you do not wish me to do XYZ.

Consequence
If I break said rule, I need swift and fitting punishment. I've said this before, but it bears repeating...using pain is not a punishment. Neglect, lectures, clearly showing that I am a disappointment to you, these are punishments.

Progress Markers
This must have milestones, some indication of the progress I'm making as a submissive. This learning may not have anything to do with each of us as individuals, or of us as a D/s relationship, but there must be learning involved or I will stagnate. It doesn't even have to involve this lifestyle at all. Assignments, opportunities to receive 'extra credit', let me shine. Let me earn your continued attention.

Accountability
Learning to react in order to avoid punishment is a first tentative step. This is the next, the tests that ensure I am committing to what I've learned, that I don't disregard my lessons simply due to absence or time or proximity.